When don’t know our boundaries until we meet them

People have all kinds of ideas about what they will and won’t do but often those personal rules get broken. It’s hard to hold ourselves to high ideals that come from our thinking rather than from our life experience.

Think of overeating, excessive alcohol or overdoing, when we gain enough personal experience of how awful we feel afterward, it’s easier to make better choices the next time around. For most of us, we need quite a lot of negative feedback to finally draw a line in the sand and create a boundary that we can live by.

That’s okay because by the time we do draw our personal line and create a healthy boundary for ourselves, we will own it and keeping it will become much less effortful.

I’ve been recording audio files for the Life Transformation Intensive and discussing the way boundaries naturally emerge from healing. When our capacity is low, due to illness or pain, it’s easier to say no. We literally don’t have the option of doing things certain things. As we heal, we can grow into a healthier relationship with our boundaries which enables us to decline when we need to and say yes when what’s on offer is something that’s truly nourishing.

Don’t wait to be sick to say no when you mean it and yes to things that are truly right for you.