People tend to minimize the impact of everyday trauma.

People seem to limit their definition of trauma to extreme events like sexual abuse, physical violence or overt acts of aggression. In my healing practice, I find that my patients' health is inhibited by much more ordinary daily trauma. Here's a list of some of common childhood woes that can impact long-term health. *

• Feeling undervalued in the family, "Nobody cared about me", "What I felt didn't matter".

• Not feeling seen my parents, "They didn't understand me, I couldn't talk to them".

• Not having someone to turn to in distress, "I was on my own".

• Feeling pressured, "I could never do enough to please them, I kept trying but I was never good enough".

• Chronically feeling scared of a volatile parent.

• Regular teasing or aggressing from a parent or older sibling
  

This list is a small sample of dynamics that can cause trauma. It excludes many things like the impact of divorce, which is so common that we've lost perspective on how impactful it can be on children.

If you are struggling with anxiety, pain or simple lack of happiness, you might benefit from a whole person approach to your care. We can't undo the past but we can find compassion and broaden the lens of what support you need right now.
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